permesso di soggoirno....... well almost

I was married in Las Vegas, 2 June USA in June to my Italian wife. We had all our documentation for an italian marriage certificate handled by an officail translator and paid a hefty amount for prompt service. 2 months and we shall have the certificate.That date blew out to 4 months. After constant harrasment of our local coucil with the only response "its not here" ,and little correspondance from the Italian embassy we finally found that the certified email was never recieved.. The pidgeon carrying the message must have been taken down by a falcon somewhere en route.Having gone to speak to the Questura about the forthcoming dillema, myself becoming "clandestino" their reply was don't worry, but hurry.. hmmmm. Three days later i was stopped in Germany by a random car control check without documents, arrested and nearly deported. I still need to deal with and close that one.So marriage certificate in hand i return to the Questura to see about now getting my permesso di soggiorno and waiting like everyone else im told " Im too busy to see you today come back in 1 week." Grrrrr....The papperwork has now been submitted and is being processed which i was told will take a month. I'm no longer counting days after this ordeal, I've had a job lined up for 2 months now, an awesome job with the best pay and conditions possibly available in Italy and been unable to start. Hopefully i can start in the new year?Has anyone else had these kind of issues waiting for what i consider "important" documents? Is this where i look back and laugh after the document finally arrives saying "thats Italy" like after so many other irritating things? Maybe it's not such a long time? Having tried to do everthing right and paid the money im still getting the muddy end of the stick. 2000 euro and i could've brought one black market, yes they are for sale.